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PostPosted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 11:40 am 
I have to agree with what you have said here. The website is great as it is so difficult to talk to people at school - many are just jealous that you think your child is in with a chance.

The jealousy when your child actually gets in is incredible. Some mothers who had been friends with me since their children were in reception, said some really hurtful things to me and I have lost touch with them since. One person said that my daughter wouldn't be able to cope because she wasn't bright enough!! What a b*****d. Anyway, she has coped and I am so glad she went to that school.

Other people just felt unable to speak to me at all! The best people to chat to are those whose children are already at grammar school, because they understand what you are going through. I wonder if others have had this experience.


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 Post subject: Jealousy
PostPosted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 11:54 am 
I can imagine it must be very difficult, whatever the result. Sometimes I think those people whose children are not doing the 11+ or indeed are not expected to pass but are doing it anyway(another subject to be discussed) are the lucky ones, no pressurre, no worries etc. You are right, no one talks and the irony is I guess everyone is really feeling the same. We are all talking here on this webb site but put us in the same playground and guess what? I have asked my son if the kids talk and they don't niether and do you know I think thats because the teachers tell them they are not allowed to too. The thing is we would all really benefit from chatting to eachother about it as we are all in the same boat. I have a best friend whose son has also done the tests and I don't know how we will react to eachother depending on the outcome. We have both said that whatever the case we are friends. I find myself glad that this last year our sons have become less close,(they are why we became best friends in the frist place) they are no longer in the same class and they dont see each other as much which to be honest will make things easier. If they were still very close the whole thing would make it more difficult for us all.

I wish with all my heart they both pass because then my best friend and I can share the delight TOGETHER!

Ps

What about the dads, they seem to be pretty laid back about the whole thing, present company excluded!


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 2:28 pm 
Dear Mary,

Dads I have come across don't generally get emotionally involved in the outcome of these exams. However there are exceptions, for instance I believe this very website was set up by a dad to help his son living with his ex-wife to get through the eleven plus entrance exams. His story was in the telegraph last year. May be he is just an exception?

It's a relatively new website so was not around when my first two went through the process (one success and one not so); however my third child who sat his exams on Saturday (fingers crossed :roll: ) has got great benefit from this web site.

Ps I may be preaching to the converted but I have to say their bookshop service is VERY professional and efficient - both my orders were delivered by the next morning.


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 Post subject: Close friends
PostPosted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 2:50 pm 
Mary,

An anecdote about friends that I thought is worth sharing.

My dad used to always tell me to think of life as a multi-track roller coaster, there will be times you will be travelling at the same speed as others along the same stretch where you will see them as your close friends and rest assured that there will be times when you will rise and they will fall, and vice versa, when you will not feel that close or keep in touch.

Bit philisophical for a friday afternoon, but basically you have to keep an eye on your track ....


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 3:30 pm 
I was thinking earlier that I'm gonna miss this webbsite when this is all over and done with as I seem to of become quite addicted to it. However I am now thinking I may still look in ocasionally so to offer advice, where I can to all those heading up the same path of us next year.

Its a shame this webbsite cannot extend to one for parents and educating children in general, I think it would prove really popular.


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 Post subject: I approve
PostPosted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 4:24 pm 
Mary,

I spoke to the owner once when I placed an order. He is friendly and was quite open to new ideas when I asked about Key Stage 2 books etc.

No harm in calling and presenting your brilliant idea. I would certainly support your idea of a progressive website for kids of 1994/5 - so the site evolves around their educational needs as they grow older, i.e. parents graduate to the KS2 site with the same forum participants/community with the site catering for KS2 requirements, and then onto KS3, GCSE etc.

Creating a sort of cyber community of mums (& dads :roll: maybe ) who keep friends for years charting and tracking progress of our children as they grow up, sharing tips and having a shoulder to lean on.


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PostPosted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 3:38 pm 
I support the above wholeheartedly. An on-line support network would somewhat eliminate the competitiveness among parents and children in reality.

I've met parents (mostly mothers) at open days who have appeared sincere and we've exchanged contact details so that we can talk further and our children can socialise. However, I'm always the one who instigates telephone calls. I think this is partlly due to some parents competitiveness.

Yes, I am driven and determined but not competitive, in this arena. I share information regarding schools, tests etc. freely. I dont look upon other children as obstacles/ a threat to my child gaining a place at a desired school. Perhaps I'm wrong to think this way.


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PostPosted: Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:57 am 
Hi Ali

Can you tell me how you worked that result out???

Thansk Mel


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PostPosted: Wed Nov 23, 2005 5:17 pm 
Who is Ali????


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 Post subject: Ali
PostPosted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 3:04 pm 
Dear Guest

I don't know who Ali is but they worked out a scoreline on previous page and signed off as Ali Baba???

If you are there Ali Baba can you tell me ho wyou worked out that score??

Also can anyone tell me what the 15 is in the calcualtion of a Standardised score eg raw - average x 15? devided by 12.5 + 1oo = score

Mel


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